House warming gift card greetings

Hey everyone,
I wanted to share my experience with the Reolink security camera system (See Price on Amazon) I picked up a few months ago. I wasn't sure what to expect at first, but overall I'm really impressed, especially for the price point.
Here's what I love:

• Super easy setup: I'm no tech whiz, but even I could get these cameras up and running in under an hour. The instructions were clear, and the app is very user-friendly.
• Crystal clear video: The picture quality is fantastic, both day and night. I can zoom in and actually see details, which is a big deal for me.
• Motion detection works great: I get alerts on my phone whenever there's movement, and it's been very accurate at catching things like deliveries or my cat prowling around outside.
• No monthly fees! This was a huge selling point for me. I can store the footage locally on an SD card, which is plenty for my needs.

Check the Price of the Reolink Security System on Amazon
A couple of minor drawbacks

• The app can be a little buggy sometimes. It's not a dealbreaker, but occasionally it will take a few tries to connect to the cameras.
• Night vision alerts can be a bit sensitive. Sometimes I get notifications for things like blowing leaves or spiderwebs in the headlights of passing cars. I'm still tweaking the settings to try and minimize that.

Overall, I'm very happy with my Reolink system. It's a great value for the features you get, and it gives me peace of mind knowing my house is being monitored. If you're looking for a user-friendly and affordable security camera system, I highly recommend checking them out!

Hi all!
I’m an (aspiring) mid-20s entrepreneur hoping to collect informal thoughts / views on body care as an extension of skin care. I’ve made a quick survey and would really appreciate whatever insights the community would be able to share! Hoping to hear responses from a wide variety of backgrounds, ages, and ethnicities.
I’m also raffling off 5 $25 Amazon gift cards as a thank you to respondents who take the time to fill out the form.
You can find the link to my survey here: https://forms.gle/MxCquh1N1kaK7mf68
Thank you so much in advance!! 💗

My GF (24) decided to surprise me (M28) on Christmas 2023 with Ready or Not already downloaded on my computer. The mistake that inherently lead to this whole debacle was she ended up putting her card info on my account instead of purchasing the game as a gift or just using my card and Venmo, etc.
A weekish later around January 3rd, I turned on my computer and the game was inaccessible. I message steam support and apparently due to my gf using her card on my account, her bank flagged it as a fraudulent charge and steam processed a charge back. The charge back was strangely not the full price of the game - ready or not at the time plus tax was like $50+ and the charge back was only for $32. Steam support suggested we reach out to the bank and request them to re-send the money and in 1-3 months time the game would be accessible again. On Jan 23rd the money was re-sent back out.
Fast forward 3 months and multiple messages to steam with no access to the game or the money refunded.
There’s nothing to re-dispute with my gf’s bank since we gave them permission to re-send the money to steam. Whatcha think, we beat?

We purchased a car 6 weeks ago. We got a loan with Westlake financial. The payment was due on April 7th. We mailed a money order for partial payment $400. We were going to pay the remaining 72$ on a card, but honestly it slipped my mind. Westlake reached out to me to let me the payment was 14 days late and I immediately paid the remaining balance. I get a call from the finance guy at the dealership saying that Westlake contacted him and told him that we were late on the first payment and they wanted off the loan. I called Westlake myself and they informed me that did place the contract into review once the payment was late due to it being the first payment, but they did not tell the dealer they would come off the loan. The dealer initiated this. Now he is telling us that they will in-house finance the vehicle, which I absolutely do not want. Westlake informed me that they have basically voided out their contract and sent 4500 + 472 our down payment and first month payment back to the dealership.
My question is, are we legally obligated to in-house finance this with the dealership now that Westlake has voided out our contract? I would like to get back our money and give them their car back. We have had the car for about 45 days and driven about 1k miles. Everything we signed is with Westlake, we never agreed to finance with dealership. That makes me think that legally we don’t have to and we can just return this and get our money back. Not sure.
Thank you for any legal advice. (We are in FL, btw)

My best friend fucked my roommate
This weekend my best friend who I haven’t seen in probably a year came to visit me. We go to different schools and my school was having a big party this weekend. The entire day I barely saw her, and when I did find her she left to go flirt with various men. When I brought it up she said that she wanted to play games and didn’t want to just sit outside with me the whole day but I was only outside because it was so hot inside. Later that night she disappeared for a while and some people told me she was in my roommates room and the door was locked. I knocked three times to no answer and about 2 mins after the last knock they came out and neither said anything. I was upset and went to go change into more comfortable clothes, and instead of coming to talk to me, my best friend went back with my roommate. Around 2 hours later I went to knock on his door again to ask if she wanted food because it was late and I was going to doordash something. They answer me through the door but say I can’t come in and tell me she doesn’t want anything. By the time my food comes, she comes upstairs and asks to talk to me where she then very nonchalantly says “sorry I fucked your roommate”. I expressed how upset I was with the situation and the position that she put me in and asked why she hadn’t just come talk to me earlier (after the first time they had come out of the room) and she gave me a vague answer about not wanting to have the inevitably awkward conversation with me and then went back down to his room because she “said that she would be quick”. I honestly freaked out after that because despite the fact that I had read the signs and figured out what they were doing, I was upset and had no idea how to react in that situation. Later she comes back and asks if I’m mad at her after which we have a lengthy conversation that doesn’t really resolve anything. I go out on the balcony to try and compose myself and because I needed space and one of my other roommates came out to tell me that she was hyperventilating on the phone to someone. When she comes to talk to me afterward she pulls the martyr card about how she’ll sleep on the couch and she’ll never set foot back in this house again, to which I say I just need time and space to process everything. The next day I have a conversation with him and he apologizes and tells me he had no idea I would be this upset about it and he would’ve never done it had he known, but when I asked him if he understood why I was upset he said no. I understand that people have different feelings about sex but I’ve never been a prude and I feel like I have a right to be upset about this because it’s caused so much tension and awkwardness which is exactly why I didn’t want it to happen. Now she’s texting me and saying that she needs space to figure out her emotions like she’s the victim here. I know they’re two consenting adults but I can’t help but be upset about this and after multiple conversations with them and others, I can’t tell if I’m in the wrong here or not. Please help!!!

Hi everyone,
I thought I would make a summary of my recent trip to Tassie, as a fun little diary for myself and to hopefully assist some other travellers.
Despite a few mistakes (which I'll get to), we've had a wonderful time.
Day 1 - Monday - Hobart

• We arrived in Hobart early afternoon. After sorting out some travel insurance drama, we had a quick stop over at Barilla Bay Oyster Farm.
• Unfortunately, I didn't check their closing hours, so we only had a short time to chug down our oysters and be on our way to Mona.
• Mona was beautiful, but perhaps we missed some spots, as we were done exploring after about 2 hours. Definitely not for children.
• We planned to go to Mount Wellington to check out the sunset but were absolutely spent and rested until our dinner at Drunken Admiral.
• Our dinner was absolutely beautiful and a great introduction to Tassie seafood!

Day 2 - Tuesday - Tasman Peninsula

• I had booked a ferry around the Tasman Peninsula and had to be there by 1:15pm.
• After some gift shopping, I realised that I was a slower driver than expected and had no real time to explore Port Arthur.
• While the Tasman Ferry was an amazing experience, it was cold. If you are thinking of going, definitely bring an extra layer or 3.
• Unfortunately, by the time our ferry trip was over, the Port Arthur site was closed. This was definitely a missed opportunity and I look forward to visiting again in my next trip.
• After a terrifying drive after sunset to Hobart, we were able to have a quick tasting at Lark and enjoy a dinner at Pearl & Co. I preferred Drunken Admiral, my partner says it was a toss-up (what are your thoughts?).

Day 3 - Wednesday - Richmond, Bicheno

• After checking out of Custom House, Hobart, we made our way to Bicheno.
• We made an impromptu stopover at Richmond, which ended up being a great decision, such a beautiful town. We especially loved the small replica down of Hobart.
• We then stopped by Devil's Corner Winery. I enjoyed the views and the pizza but the wines didn't quite agree with me. I'm very much a beginner to wines, so I might be in the minority.
• We then checked into Bicheno by the Bay and enjoyed a dinner at Lobster Shack. There was a surprisingly long queue for a Wednesday evening.

Day 4 - Thursday - Freycinet National Park

• This was a public holiday, so we've prepared ourselves for many venues to be shut - surprisingly, we found this to not be the case. In fact, most places did not even charge a surcharge!
• The drive to the part was incredible, and it got even better during the hike. We've opted for a beginner trail, just to the look out which took us about 1.5 hours.
• We visited a nearby lighthouse for a shorter walk and then took a long-needed break.

Day 5 - Friday, Maria Island & back to Hobart

• This was the day my partner was the most excited for, as she was incredibly keen to see Wombats in the wild.
• We made our way back down to Triabunna and the ticket process was easy enough, just need to be there 45 minutes prior to departure.
• Maria Island was beautiful (just like all parts of Tassie that we've seen), and wombats!
• Just be aware that if you are not an experienced bike rider, that the ride here will be quite challenging. My partner had a rough time biking on the hills and the dirt tracks and we soon opted to return the bikes and hike instead.
• For our final evening in Tasmania, we ate at Aloft. This was one of our food highlights for us. If you eat here, I recommend you don't opt out of the wallaby tartare! I was first put off but found it to be one of my favourite dishes of the course.

Day 6 - Saturday, Salamanca Market

• After breakfast at Jackman & McRoss we headed down to the Salamanca Market.
• This market is huge. Do yourself a favour and allocate a lot of time.
• After our fill of gin samplings and purchasing more souvenirs, we returned to the airport.

Things I wish I knew

• Outside of Hobart, lots of places tend to close early and open late (except for cafes). Lots of wineries and restaurants appear to close on Tuesdays & Wednesdays too so double-check!
• We overestimated our energy, especially after long drives. All the turns required a higher level of concentration, and found ourselves needing a break more regularly.
• I disregarded advice I found here against driving at night in Tassie. After my terrifying drive back from Tasman, it is not one I'm likely to forget.
• I wish I had tried more independently owned wineries - Devil's corner was great but I believe they're owned under a fairly large company.
• While it was not possible in this trip, I do wish that it was a 10-day trip at least. 6 days was nowhere near enough for even just Hobart & Bicheno, let alone Tassie itself.

If you've read to the end, thanks for your time and hope you enjoyed my summary. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have.

It's 40 outside. The house was set to 72-heating. Got too warm so husband started AC at 70-cooling instead of cracking open windows a little

Hi all,
I'm aware that this post might make a few people angry, but: I think you should skip classical user research. Hear me out:
I've been helping companies invent new products for about 8 years now. This has resulted in numerous product launches, multiple patents, and lots of (in)validated concepts.
I'm writing this post after reflecting on some of the learnings I've had throughout my career with the hope to provide some help to those looking to land more sales.
Typically, when I've gone about inventing a new product for a company, I've start by going out and talking to users. The process is usually quite linear. Recruit X number of participants from demographic Y, have a 30-45 min call with them, analyze audio/video recording, then synthesize. I've been trained in ethnographic research so a lot of the synthesis is really trying to read between the lines to understand the real "latent" needs of customers.
Latent needs are needs that a customer doesn't explicitly state. To unearth a latent need, you inherently need to use your gut and take a mini leap of faith. If someone is saying they "want a faster horse", you can use your gut to infer that the true underlying need is "to get to where I'm going faster". You might be wrong, but hey, it's a hypothesis.
This is the typical user research process that big companies and agencies use.
But startups aren't big companies. Neither are indie hackers. You don't have the budget to go out to talk to 100 users and give them gift cards, or incentivize them with cash. You need to start selling and you need data now.
Well, it turns out the selling process is VERY similar to the user research process. In a user interview, we might have a discussion guide which is designed to ask key questions that lead to generative insights. In a sales call, we're effectively doing the same, but there is no intent to incentivize the participant (quite the opposite actually). However, the need to follow your gut and infer latent needs is still critical.
As a result, I say: Fellow Indie Hackers, skip the user research and go straight to the sales call! You're still getting out the room to talk to customers, you're still asking generative questions, and you're still learning a lot! The only difference is:
-You're not incentivizing people to talk to you -You're pre-validating the distribution channel because if you can't even find anyone to speak to you, you likely won't find those people later -You get to make mistakes and "get some reps in" before actual high-ticket sales calls -You're testing the latent need hypothesis with the actual market with limited spend
I've found that a lot of founders take the "big company" / agency approach to user research. I think that definitely has its place, and is very useful. However, these companies have resource that Indie Hackers simply don't. I say skip the formalities and get out the room!
It can get a little overwhelming analyzing all those sales calls. After 3 or 4, our memory starts to get a bit fuzzy and I've often found myself wondering "what did that customer last week say about XYZ feature?" or "how many people actually think Z?". It's also easy to start to build confirmation bias after just a few interviews. You start to think you're seeing a trend, but it's just your brain playing tricks on you and getting you to hear what you want to hear.
There's plenty of manual methods you can use to analyze the sales calls, however, it takes a LOT of time to sift through all the conversations and it's hard to stay unbiased. Our team has built a tool called InsightLab (www.insightlab.ca) that can help you analyze not just user interviews, but also sales calls. Simply upload your audio/video recordings, it'll auto-transcribe the files, and you can unlock insights that can help you drive sales. We've set it at a price point that we think is accessible to the IndieHacker community and we'd love to help you build products that people love.
Much love.

My uncle just went to a few only advisor and he has recommended the following.
He loves the updates I give him from our group so he asked can you show this to the group.
Retired 67 yo with wife
Pension 1 lakh per month
Own house, 7 yr old car, CGHS health insurance
Kids settled happily. Don't need my money, they will give as much money if there is a need.
Travel expense 9 lakhs per year (one US trip + one Goa trip)
Maintainance for grandmother 30,000 per month
The next few expenses are - gifting, medical, car
Total corpus 90 L
Current state - cash in bank
I don't need this money for next 10 years.
Advice given
Your total portfolio should be 50-50 debt to equity
Debt Senior citizen scheme -15 L PPF - 15 L Any other FD - 3 lakhs emergency fund Debt mutual fund -0
Equity mutual funds Nasdaq - 10 lakhs Nifty -20 lakhs Mid cap - 10 lakhs Small cap - 5 lakhs
Issues - market are at all time high

My infuriating mind has been turning this over for weeks but last night it kept me awake. Asking here as I need some advice...
I (44m) have a work friend (42f) I've known for 6+ years and in that time we've become quite close. We don't work in the same area but routinely see each other during lunch breaks, head to the shops, sit and drink tea etc.
She's always warm and friendly, chatty etc, basically the work wife and we're known as that pretty much everyone who knows us. Others have commented on how well she regards me. It's the kind of work place where bad things happen and they bring you closer to the people along side you when they happen and we've both been through a lot together. Recently she's been going through some BF stuff and we've talked about that and similar level stuff over the time we've known each other. Like I said, quite close.
Over the years I've asked on a dozen occasions (innocently!) if she would like to do something outside of work. Each and every time I get a "that sounds great" type reply which then leads to nothing happening. Which is fine and maybe what you'd expect from a work friendship, however close.
Most recently, I asked if she'd like to go and see another colleague perform on stage and she hasn't bothered letting me know one way or another.
Oddly, she did contact me about a year ago and we spend a nice afternoon having a few beers and a good conversation.
What's puzzling me is the fact she often sees other colleagues out of work, and not necessarily people who know her as well as I do. It's not a male/female thing as several of them are men. I totally get you have different friends for different parts of your life but to me it's not how I see a friendship, a genuine friendship, working out.
Another thing, possibly the thing, that makes me unable to resolve this in my mind is the fact she always remembers my birthday, Christmas etc, often gives me homemade gifts and cards and generally gives the impression of being someone who's in my life outside of the workplace. A couple of weeks ago she cancelled plans with her adult son to sit and chat with me (at work) for several hours despite finishing at lunchtime. It's just not a level of behaviour I'd expect from someone I only see during lunchbreaks.
I've recently spend a lot of time converting colleagues in to genuine friends I see outside of work and it's worked, so I'm not exactly a dull and boring person!
She's great, but given I don't see myself working in the same place in the next year or so, I feel like I won't be seeing her after that.
This is really frustrating me, she's one of the few people on this earth i believe I'm close to but I'm seriously considering cutting ties and putting the energy (and lunchbreaks) in to other people who are happy to meet up away from work.
And that thought makes me feel like a bad person :(
Feel free to comment, question, advise, commiserate etc!

My infuriating mind has been turning this over for weeks but last night it kept me awake. Asking here as I need some advice...
I (44m) have a work friend (42f) I've known for 6+ years and in that time we've become quite close. We don't work in the same area but routinely see each other during lunch breaks, head to the shops, sit and drink tea etc.
She's always warm and friendly, chatty etc, basically the work wife and we're known as that pretty much everyone who knows us. Others have commented on how well she regards me. It's the kind of work place where bad things happen and they bring you closer to the people along side you when they happen and we've both been through a lot together. Recently she's been going through some BF stuff and we've talked about that and similar level stuff over the time we've known each other. Like I said, quite close.
Over the years I've asked on a dozen occasions (innocently!) if she would like to do something outside of work. Each and every time I get a "that sounds great" type reply which then leads to nothing happening. Which is fine and maybe what you'd expect from a work friendship, however close.
Most recently, I asked if she'd like to go and see another colleague perform on stage and she hasn't bothered letting me know one way or another.
Oddly, she did contact me about a year ago and we spend a nice afternoon having a few beers and a good conversation.
What's puzzling me is the fact she often sees other colleagues out of work, and not necessarily people who know her as well as I do. It's not a male/female thing as several of them are men. I totally get you have different friends for different parts of your life but to me it's not how I see a friendship, a genuine friendship, working out.
Another thing, possibly the thing, that makes me unable to resolve this in my mind is the fact she always remembers my birthday, Christmas etc, often gives me homemade gifts and cards and generally gives the impression of being someone who's in my life outside of the workplace. A couple of weeks ago she cancelled plans with her adult son to sit and chat with me (at work) for several hours despite finishing at lunchtime. It's just not a level of behaviour I'd expect from someone I only see during lunchbreaks.
I've recently spend a lot of time converting colleagues in to genuine friends I see outside of work and it's worked, so I'm not exactly a dull and boring person!
She's great, but given I don't see myself working in the same place in the next year or so, I feel like I won't be seeing her after that.
This is really frustrating me, she's one of the few people on this earth i believe I'm close to but I'm seriously considering cutting ties and putting the energy (and lunchbreaks) in to other people who are happy to meet up away from work.
And that thought makes me feel like a bad person :(
Feel free to comment, question, advise, commiserate etc!

do my apologies mean anything anymore?
you accept them graciously every time, and you continue loving me same as ever.
you bring me a gift of fruit and warm honey and ask if i need anything else, because you’re worried
worried that i still feel bad.
how are you smiling like that? you’re joking with me like nothing happened.
didn’t you hear what i said to you? didn’t you hear my tone of voice?
yes, you say, but that wasn’t my wife. now, let me enjoy these sweets with my wife.
why are you being so nice to me?
are you asking why am i being nice to my wife?
… …
i’m really sorry.
i know.
no, i’m serious. i’m really freaking sorry.
khalas ya qalbi — i’m serious too. i know you didn’t mean it.
… …
i know I’m not crying in the middle of the kitchen floor anymore. i guess that’s progress.
but i’m still scared.
because maybe one day there won’t be anymore strawberries& warm honey.
and it will be all my fault.

Hi! I'm an artist based in the Philippines. I was wondering if any of you would like to have an illustration of a motorcycle you like or have. I included sample illustrations I made for a friend. I hope that I'll be able to draw yours too.
I have 3 options for you: line art, 2D drawing with color, and a detailed colored illustration. You can choose the size of the drawing (2R, 4R, 5R, 6R) and orientation. The file type will be JPEG and PNG but if you require a different file type, we can talk about it.
IMPORTANT NOTE: the drawing will be based on the reference picture you will send me. Please send a photo with good resolution.
Line art: This is a freehand line drawing of one motorcycle with no revisions. It will be black and white. This will cost $5 only. It'll take 1 day before I can give you the product or more, depending on how many commissions I have to do before yours.
2D drawing with color: This is also a freehand drawing of one motorcycle with no revisions. You can choose the color, and a block color background. This will cost $15 only. It'll also take about a day before you receive it, or more, still depending on how many are on my plate.
Detailed, colored illustration: This is a freehand drawing of one motorcycle with 3 revisions at most. You can choose the color of the illustration and the block background. It will cost $150 and will take 1-2 weeks.
Note: You can ask me to add personalization on all of them.
The payment will be made through Paypal.
Thank you!

Hi, I currently receive 25+ couples UC, housing cost, and LCWRA+carers, we currently have about £1500 in credit card debt from household purchases made last year, and was wondering if a budgeting advance could be granted for debt repayment. We were planning on paying half of it with our next UC, but if the other half could be paid with an advance it would prevent any extra interest from accruing.

My goals are to buy a house in the next few years, but I think I need to diversify my credit. I have pretty decent credit, but I heard it will hurt me that I have never had credit beyond credit cards.
I have no plans to buy a car, or get student loans. So my next idea is to take out a small 1.5k personal loan. 1.5 k shouldn’t be very difficult for me to pay off. I don’t particularly need the loan, but I also will probably not need any loan any time soon. Is this a bad idea?

So last year I read kaleidoscopic grangers and went onto a fan fic reading spree. So I have read a few since, but ao3 and (specially) fanfictiondotnet are very hard to find onto very specific ideas or types. So I came her seeking recommendations.
While not necessarily all of these at the same time, I would like to read some fics with the following characteristics:
1.- female mc,
2.- or maybe a transfemale mc
3.- long and preferably finished.
4.- maybe a harmony ship.
5.-I dont care if the MC is Overpowered, i don't want overpowered mc right out of the bat, if they happen to be op I want it to be earned it.
6.- I like when fics go to explain magic systems in great detail or introduce a new one.
7.- while I read any romance f/m, f/f and m/m I do prefer a lot f/f and f/m over m/m
8.- I do like a bit of Ron bashing, not to much just enough to make him snap and become a better friend.
9.- focus on duelling techniques, or an actual methodology in fighting
As I said it does not necessarily needs all of these traits/tropes/tags but it would be neat it has some of them.
Some fics I have read and remember fondly are:
-kaleidoscopic grangers (young blind Harry is adopted very young by the grangers and come out as trans, becoming ariadne granger, very good, extremely long like 1.5 times bigger than HP 7 books, finished, goes a lot of detail into magic systems and a bit of socialite stuff, as well as other species culture and lifestyles)
-a skirt it's not so bad (Harry in year 2 ends up poly juicing into pansy parkison and realizes all this time he has felt wrong by being a guy, hermione realizes what's going on a helps Harry transition into holly Potter, unfinished, it's very interesting how it makes the tri wizard tournament super dynamic and it's very combat focused, also has started to delve into the fae creatures it's uses in magic )
-new blood (an slytherin hermione gets into hogwarts and decides to gaslight the entire magic community into that another social class exist, "new bloods" Families who have received the gift of magic from magic itself to establish a new great house and bring change into the magic world, Unfinished but its gets updated insanely frequently, also insanely long)
-In the forest of the Dean( after ron dishes Harry and Hermione in book 7 and Hermione receives an almost fatal wound, Hermione and Harry decides to take war and their survival a lot more seriously and ends up becoming a couple, a bit or a ton of Ron Bashing, Finished,)
-A Marauder´s Plan (After the events of book 3, Sirius decide to take his role as Lord Black to manipulate Magic society, demonstrate he is innocent so he can take care of Harry, Finished)
So with that if any of you reading this happen to recommend something with a few of this traits, thanks before hand.

This would be early to mid august
This will be ENTIRELY on maui, so we aren't burning time hopping islands
Looking for advice on extra things to do or not miss out on
An extra thing i really wanted to do was that stargazing cruise, https://www.pacwhale.com/ecotousunset-celestial-cruise/ , but they ONLY operate on saturdays and the one saturday we can go seems to be sold out? or not available? im not sure if they do wait lists?
Also, some kind of local cooking class is something we try to do everywhere we go, but maui doesnt seem to really have any?
im budgeting about $10,000, including some room for about $100 per day in food costs averaged out
Day 1 (friday):

• arrive between noon and 7pm
• check into hotel wailea (early check-in?)
  • picked this place because it's chill and very swanky, and also not crazy expensive
  • fiancé really wants a fancy place with room service specifically
  • unsure if they often upgrade for honeymooners, probably not

Day 2 :

• go to the beach, hotel wailea has drivers to get you anywhere nearby
• explore the resort some more

Day 3 :

• pick up rental car
  • probably a jeep 4xe for drop top, plug in electric driving, 4 wheeling for some rougher roads
• nothing else currently planned, what to do?

Day 4 :

• check out of hotel wailea late
• check into huelo point lookout https://maui-vacationrental.com/
  • picked because it's very pretty, reasonably priced, quite secluded, was recommended on here a LOT, and has a private hot tub + pool on site
  • only downside is it seems to be kinda far from everything so i guess we'd have to cook all our own meals and such, are there specific spots around there for meals and groceries?
• stargazing up the mountain in the evening
  • https://www.mauistargazing.com/sunset-stargazing-tou
  • 4:15 to 9:15pm
  • recommended to bring our own food and water but warm clothes are provided

Day 5 :

• road to hana trip through Maui roadsters, https://mauiroadsters.com/
  • (8am to 8pm)
  • explore road side stuff on the way and the ride back (need recommendations on things to visit)
  • mama's fish house for either a 3:30pm late lunch (before roadster drop off) or an 8:30 dinner

Day 6 :

• o'farm coffee and brunch tour, 8:30am to ???
• nothing currently planned for the evening, what to do?

Day 7 :

• snorkeling trip to lana'i with trilogy tours
• https://sailtrilogy.com/
  • (6:30am to 2:30pm)
  • (might change this to the KA'ANAPALI since apparently the lana'i trip doesn't actually do much snorkeling?)
  • (also unsure if the SNUBA upgrade is worth it)
  • me and my fiancé are currently getting some swimming lessons and practicing snorkeling in the pool
• nothing currently planned for the evening, what to do?

Day 8 :

• check out of huelo point lookout
• drop off rental car in the afternoon
• get to airport

Before I start this I just want to say it’s a long read and will be 2 parts if you care to read on. I tried shortening it a few times and rewriting and posting it but it’s just not telling the way I want it to. I don’t know where else to post this considering its size.
Imagine going over to your exs house (if you’re on good terms with them and had a sort of fling with them) and they completely blindside you as soon as you walk in the house by introducing them to their new girlfriend! I’m dressed like shit, my hair isn’t done and I probably smell like shit too cause I just got off work. My ex gave me no warning and when I stepped into his house I gave him a hug that he quickly shrugged off of himself and looked immensely uncomfortable with til his girlfriend slid out from whatever shadowy corner she was hiding in. He introduced me to her and of course I’m going to be nice even though I’ve been caught off guard. Why be rude if I’ve no reason to be? He hides away to go finish some school work or whatever and that leaves me and her alone. This can’t be good (it wasn’t) she starts asking me questions like how long did we date and such which I don’t mind answering I’m just trying to kill the awkward air between us really and I’m genuinely trying to be nice here. My ex comes out of his room and calls for her to come back, I think that’s weird and really quite rude but whatever I continue on looking at my phone. After about 15 mins he nor she has come back now I’m like “yeah, no this weird I’m leaving” so as I’m about to get up and leave she comes back. I don’t ask her what they talked about because it’s really not my business but regardless I still decide that I need to go the vibes are just completely off. I get up and tell her to tell my ex that I’m going to go home I’m really tired and it’s already late.
She looks at me and doesn’t say anything so I walk over to the mudroom and get my things. For a split second I grabbed the wrong bag her bag and my bag are the exact same as I realized. I didn’t notice til I was digging around looking for my keys wondering why they weren’t in the spot I put them. It took me a 30 seconds to realize this wasn’t mine when I pulled out some keys that were definitely not to my car. ( I know, it looks bad ) In that span of time she had gotten up and followed me. I’m not joking she followed me to the mudroom and watches me grab my things. When I smile and ask if I was standing in the way or if she needed something she shakes her head and says no. So I continue putting my shoes and jacket on when I turn my back and she suddenly says “ you know, I thought I was going to have to be worried about you but I was scared for nothing” I look at her weird and ask her “ what does she mean?” She then says she thought she had to be worried about fighting me because I’m black. Now obviously that’s just entirely out of pocket, who tf says that to anyone? “ uh, no I’m not going to fight you, why would I?” She then stands in the doorway and refuses to move. I ask her to move out of the way so I can go but she shakes her head. She then starts just insulting me. Saying things like “ I don’t know what he saw in you, you’re not even pretty.” I’m so much better than you” now I’m like what is wrong with her? I’m just trying to be nice but she’s being so rude to me.
My ex comes out of his room and sees that I’m trying to leave. He grabs me by the wrist and basically flings me from the mudroom to the kitchen. He asks his girlfriend to go in his room so he can talk to me privately. She obliged(she didn’t, she was hiding behind a wall eavesdropping) now I’m really feeling on edge, I just want to go home what does he want now? He hands me a bag of things, it’s every thing I ever gave him in the two years we dated. Pictures, trinkets and birthday gifts all from when we dated. “Ok” I think “it’s not abnormal for exes to give each other things back once they break up no biggie” (he was my first real relationship, I had no references except for what I’d seen in movies) he then tells me that I need to move on because he has and she’s so much better than me in every way.” Now I’m confused, I know there’s a classy way of doing things like this and this was an incredibly trashy way I tell him he can keep it because it’s really all for him and his interests, he throws it away in the kitchen garbage. Ok, lemme hold back my tears, it’s whatever. I ask him why is he being so rude to me, I’ve never been this way to him” he then says “ because I know you think there’s still hope of us getting back together and I want you to know that that is never happening again. I regret meeting you and I wish we never even dated” now what the hell did I do to deserve that?
I know I’d been a jerk here and there but I always refrained from really showing my anger at him and always tried to cool off before approaching him whenever I was upset. He acted like I cheated on him for gods sake. I ask if that was all and if I can leave, I’m completely stone faced while saying this btw I refuse to let a man make me cry in front of them. (I really wanted to break down sobbing on my hands and knees) I turn to leave and when I turn the corner I see her smiling ear to ear I make a dirty look at her ( why in the world would she be happy hearing all of this?)
Really though, why would another woman’s suffering make you happy like that? Especially one you didn’t know? Oh but she did know me! See, my wonderful horrible demonic ex was telling her alllllll about me! Every pain he put me through every time I called him to talk about what have you. She heard about my family issues, my health issues and my depression struggles. I turn the door and I’m ready to step out when my ex stopped me again. “How long is this man going to make me suffer?” I ask myself (way too long) he then decides to really stick the knife in further.
He then asks me a bunch of incredibly personal questions none of which I think really should be asked or even questioned. “Are you on drugs?” “ are you slutting yourself out now?” And “ Do you have any STDs I need to know about?”
I’m in a bind I can’t just leave because while asking me these questions he’s moved closer to the door and is now holding it which means I can’t open it now. He’s incredibly close to me and I’m sure he can see how nervous I am. I answer honestly “ no I’m not, why would you think of me like that?” He then answers “ oh well because you’re not the person I thought you were” he then goes on to say that he believes I’ve been stealing ( never have, never will) well as it turns out this whole night was just one big ol sting operation! He was recording me in the mudroom with a camera he placed there ( there was always a camera in that room, I had noticed it was missing from its usual spot) and showed me his proof of me stealing ( it showed me going through her purse like I was looking for something to take, cause I mean yeah I was looking for my keys) he looked me dead in the eyes and calls the cops right then and there. “ are you fucking serious right now” I asked him “ yup, you’re going to jail” he said with this smugness that made me sick to my stomach. While I understood what was going to happen, I wasn’t about to go down without a fight. I wasn’t going to run away from the cops or something I knew that would only make things worse. So while I’m standing there his gf and him are now just verbally tearing into me. Calling me all sorts of names and throwing all sorts of accusations on me.
By this point I’m scared as hell, the cops have never been called on me before in my life and especially not from someone who I thought I cared about and trusted. The cops arrived and when they spoke to my ex they asked him why did he call them when I didn’t actually take anything? He responded that I attempted to take something so that’s why he called. The cops I think felt weirded out by the situation and pulled me aside to speak to me about my ex. I explained to them that I had no idea he was basically setting me up this entire night he had simply asked me to hang out with him.