My current panic
Hi. I don't know if I'm going to keep this up because I'm afraid somebody will find it.
Before I start I want to make it clear that I'm not trying to shame or vilify anyone. I am just Feeling very paranoid and have had several panic attacks about this topic.
I have been dating a girl for several years now she is bisexual and i have never once felt jealous, spiteful, or panicked when she physically interacts with another female friend. However as of recent there is one friend i have met who consistently holds hands, cuddles, and kisses (on the head) my partner. I haven't brought it up directly with my partner but it's happened several times we have hungout with this person (who is also in a deep relationship) and continues to seem more touchy frlm my perspective.
I can hold a conversation with this individual and they have said to me that they enjoy my company. This gave me a lot more positivity towards the situation and maybe this is just this person's demeanor around close female friends. However she does not interact in this way with any other of her close female friends that i have seen. Additionally there was one occasion where they seemed rather aloof to me as they were attaching to my girlfriend.
Hours ago my partner and several others including this friend met up. I cannot be out very late and I live further away so I could not attend. Slight Panic occurred when I found this out but did my best to shrug this off as paranoia. Until I messaged my partner asking how it was going. She said all is well and that she was currently cuddling with the same friend.
I then went into full panic mode, asking myself:
"Again?!"
"Why would she text me that?"
"Are they doing this on purpose?"
"Did I do something wrong and they talked about it and decided to do this?"
From then on every tiny argument I've had with my partner starts to boil over me. We are very happy together but sometimes I feel like she doesn't actually like me how she used to. Like I know everybody talks about "Honeymoon phase" but she never text me first no matter if she's at work or at home. She dissatisfied with the things that we do together? Does she want more?
I'm making this post in an attempt to calm myself down and get second opinion on the matter. I don't think my partner would go out to hurt me they are a very good person that is why I date them. But as I said my paranoia seems to be taking over and I don't know if I should bring this up to my partner because I don't know what her reaction would be or if it would make the situation worse.
I don't know what to do I've never felt this way and I'm staying up way too late to write this post.
Thank you.

Hello everyone, and a special shoutout to the impeccable judge, Charlotte! I'm a huge fan of your videos, so I thought I'd share my story with you.
A few months back, my mother-in-law accused me of being selfish on my wedding day. Here's the backstory:
Background:
The wedding preparations were a fairytale for me. I felt like royalty, and everything was shaping up as I had envisioned. My husband was indifferent and gave me free rein to plan our wedding. I attempted to involve my loved ones and his family as well. Sadly, they didn't really respond and were preoccupied. They live in another state, so I get that complications arise. I asked my husband to seek his mother's involvement since I was still uneasy around her. We've been together for some time, but my mother-in-law never really made an effort to know me. My husband blames me, saying I should be the one reaching out and not her. As I was preparing our wedding, he tried to reach out and explain the situation, but she remained aloof. She opposed our marriage, deeming me unworthy of her son. Time passed, I finalized the arrangements, and it was perfect for us. (He agreed with my plan which is why I finalized it- it's teamwork!)
Wedding Day:
I was understandably nervous but excited to marry my best friend and partner for life. As I walked down the aisle, my mother-in-law shouted insults at me. During our vows, she continued to berate and mimic me. Distressed, I informed my husband of his mother's rudeness. He blamed me for not involving her in the planning, despite her lack of initiative to connect. The entire day, I was in sadness, pondering my future. While dancing, his aunt joined me and began to ask me to forgive her sister (MIL) and be patient with her. I smiled at her and said " of course!" and I went to my dressing room and began to cry. Tears filled my eyes as I looked in the mirror, but I forced a smile and returned to the dance room. She continued to insult and belittle me, declaring I wasn't worthy of her son. As the party wound down, I found my husband drunk in the bathroom. "Great," I muttered to myself. After managing to get him to the car, I bid our guests farewell and broke down crying. The drive to the hotel was even harder as I wept, feeling that our wedding day was spoiled—I was supposed to be happy and feel like a princess but that was not the case. He also spoiled our first night as a married couple because he got drunk, I guess he wasn't considerate of my feelings and what that would do to me because it was meant to be a special night. I could not even look at him and decided to sleep on the couch. The next morning, I woke up and I looked at my phone and there it was! A long, beautiful text message from my MIL! "Put on your big girl panties on and suck it up buttercup! I've worked hard all my life to have some shallow, ignorant twit like you be around my son. Don't accuse me of anything because I did not say a word to you, in fact I don't care. You are selfish and don't consider the feelings of others, so F-You and your family!!" I began to cry, of course! I woke him up and told him that I did not appreciate his mother's behavior or his during the wedding. I also showed him the text message and he began to apologize to me and said his mother will get over it. My family and friends started to check on me because my MIL was rude on our wedding day, and they all heard her insulting and belittling comments about me. I told them I was okay... My husband and I have moved past this. It took a lot of healing because it was a traumatic event for me. He was very patient, and he apologized for his behavior. (I decided to stay because I love him, and I could see past this event..I will never get my wedding day back but my husband has a lifetime with me to make up for it)
Present day:
A few months back, she mentioned the wedding day, calling me selfish and an asshole. I responded with a neutral expression, "I'm sorry for not considering your feelings more, but I was focused on planning the wedding my husband and I envisioned." She seemed shocked, raised her voice, insulted me, and then attempted to make my husband feel guilty by exclaiming, "I told you that you have your life here! Why am I here if you have her and her family?" The situation concluded with my apology and accepting to her perspective (given that she was staying with us, creating an awkward atmosphere), admitting, "Yes, I am selfish." So, my dear friends, am I at fault for not making a greater effort to involve her in our wedding?

Hi! I hope this is allowed. I apologise if it’s too sexual of a topic.
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. (Both in early twenties) The sex life was good in the beginning, then we moved in together after about a year and it started getting less frequent. As a woman with a normal libido (I would be in the mood about once a week, sometimes more) I was surprised to see he didn’t show interest as often. I knew however he relieved himself and wasn’t bothered by it, I watch porn as well and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
The issue is however, in the last months due to a medical condition I wasn’t able to have sex. I got well and we had sex about 6 days ago. Now, considering that we haven’t had sex in 5 months prior to that I expected him to be more eager to have it with me, however I noticed he got home and watched porn in the bathroom when I even made it obvious yesterday that I was in the mood. I was pretty hurt by it, and when I asked him about it he kept lying that he didn’t. (His volume accidentally went up and it was obvious)
To be noted that my physical appearance didn’t change during the relationship, except for my hair that grew longed. Also, we are happy, fighting rarely happens and it’s more of a disagreement than anything, no yelling or calling names.
Also, I am quite attractive as is he. I only mention this because it crossed my mind that if I were overweight or uglier I would maybe understand his lack of physical attraction.
Do you guys think he isn’t attracted to me anymore? Weirdly enough he acts lovingly towards me but it seems I don’t excite him anymore. I fear he will start wishing to have sex with other women. He is my whole world, since being with him no other man compares.

. I, a 26-year-old woman, met my 24-year-old girlfriend in December 2022 through a WhatsApp role group, we lasted 7 months as friends because she always told me that she only wanted me as a friend because I was with a boy from the same group, they They separated and after a month she started to give me the vibe and after two weeks I told her that it was fine that we were going to try it. About 3 months later we agreed that I would travel to her country but we had a fight that made us last a month without talk and I didn't travel because I didn't see the point in going to see someone who told me that he didn't want to see me. Then we talked again and fixed things but then I started to feel bad and when I went to the doctor I discovered that I had kidney problems. and I needed a transplant but as long as a donor did not appear I had to start dialysis, well she was with me she always called me, so 4 months passed and it was already February 2024 I planned a trip to go see her in her country but as a surprise but of Again she started an argument because I didn't support her at all and she started treating me sharply. After a while we got along and she had her birthday at the beginning of April but I couldn't go because one of my family members died, now I found a kidney donor in my country. I am going to have surgery on Saturday, May 4, and I was thinking of going before the operation and before the time I had to rest, but just one day before I was to take the flight, my father died and now she She says that I can go to have surgery in her country and I told her that I couldn't because in my family we are going through great pain and I couldn't leave my family, much less my mother. Now she says that I am playing the victim. And if her father died, she would take her mother to travel but I told her that at this moment she couldn't, am I the idiot?

we started off, it was great, whatever, then in the beginning it was idk, she called me the n word multiple times and i let it slide bc like, idk she was joking ig, then then, she would constantly insult me, might've been as a joke but like, whatever yk, i just dealth with it and saw it as a joke or something she did instead of being lovey dovey, then it went to being ok again right right, but another problem was that she worked, it's not a problem but it gave us a lot of less time to talk, and i didnt mind it becayse she was working obviously and i understood that even if it did cut the time we were able to talk, after work she'd just have like, 1 reply, then sleep and it would be for 3 days straight since she had work for 3 days in a row, so there was very little communications from monday-wednesday, thursday-friday it would be just us talking and then on the weekends she'd usually go out with her family which is cool and everything, obviously didn't mind that bc thats her family but what rlly bugged me was when she'd go out on the weekend to parties, she would read my notifications and would just leave me on delivered, i know this bc a month later she admitted she'd constantly leave me on delivered in parties, and wouldnt reply even if she had the time to do so, another thing that happened at one of these parties, was that a guy had hit on her and i usually wouldnt have minded if she told me but she didnt, she hid that, instead one of her close friends told me this and since i didnt know i was shocked bc like, why wouldnt she tell me yk, there was this one time i snuck into her house to watch tv with her and meet her sisters while her parents werent there, great sure ya, i almost got caught ngl, she tried to sneak me in but i said no bc like, it was too close of a call last time, and her parent's wouldnt have accepted me if they met me like that yk yk, bc thats disrespectful, idk, she tried to make me go, i said no,after i said no, she constantly started saying how she was gonna not reply bc she was gonna have other guys over, so instead of it being only me and her, itd be her and another guy which idk, it was a joke sure and i lowkey took it too far and called her a hoe but in a joking way and it obviously wasnt the correct term to call her, i didnt mean it genuinely but she took it like that and from her point i can see why yk, idk that was the first time we stopped texting but i ended up apologizing and talking things out bc thats how we wouldve handled that, another thing that was sort of a barrier were our times in person, we had different friend groups, we both didnt want to leave them, we agreed on just being each other every other day, thats basically how it went, i got a job not long before and i was also busy but i never really left her on delivered or responded with a bland response, i would still talk with her until i was fully assured that i was gonna sleep, but due to our every other day rule thingy, it was like whatever, i got really sick and i ended up avoiding people for that week bc i dont like it when people see me sick bc its so like, ew, i told her this, the week after she said that it seemed as if i was losing feelings for her and i assured her i wasnt, i assured her that i still wanted to be with her, we talked it out, it took us a full day to figure things out, so that happened, a week after she ended up leaving me and and, it was so dumb bc she said how she couldn't feel the same being with me as before because of what happened, and i was shocked bc like, we talked it out, she that happened, during our thing together, we both agreed to stay friends as we had ap classes together and stuff, she ended up unfollowing me on everything and not keeping her word which hurt yk, there were times where she'd get my friend to make me go to them but the first time this happened was only because she wanted money and i said no bc thats dumb, asking for money bc
we werent on talking terms yk, bc she ended things and unfollowed me off everything, even tho we agreed to stay as friends, it was like, bleh, idk, 3 months past and i lowkey folded im ngl, i texted her in the morning, asking for a retry and stuff, and she replied not long after but in this text she said no which sucks but it was the rejection i needed, but in this text she also stated how once she ended things, she regretted it really bad as we talked it out prior, i finished reading the paragraph, and we would be friends again and i was like sure
she said she'd always care about my well-being which is one thing i hate girls doing or saying after we end things, but what bothered me the most was her saying how she regretted it even tho she never tried to fix it, like her ego was too much to move aside to fix things she ended and like we talked for it bit, she got a little dry, i ended up leaving her on seen but a big reason i did this was because i still had really strong feelings for her and i wouldve never moved on if i stayed as friends, but ya that happened and i think it bothers me way more than other past relationships because it was fixable, but she didnt want to fix things, my past relationships we stayed as friends but a rule for me was once i started to talk to someone new, i'd instantly ghost them as like, im talking to someone yk, why would i talk to a ex, and us staying as friends usually ended things on good terms and i didnt hate them, but with this specific ex, i hate them bc they never tried to fix things, they didnt put in effort to fix things, and she decided to basically just ghost me after as if i didnt exist it was so dumb, but im thinking of getting back with her but the past it just really bothers me now im mexican shes mexican
but like, shes white washed
her new relationship is ok, like he made my science class feel like a living hell in freshman year as he'd always blame things on me even if it were him like when he'd take a fart and i was just minding my own business, like, wtf yk, idk
i was talking to some other people and they started to shit talk the guy, bc they pointed out how he loomed deformed bc of his lips, and they said how he thinks he's all that yk, i ended up not saying anything bc like, i dont rlly like talking shit, so i just stayed quiet and told the people im not gonna shit talk him bc thats not me yk, they can say whatever they want to but i didnt want to be a part of it, idk the people i was talking to didnt know me and that one ex were a thing before bc i wasnt rlly close with them at the time

My (F19) best friend (F18) got a new boyfriend (M20) and I’m so happy for her, he treats her so kindly and he’s kind to all of her friends including me. This is a fairly new official relationship, they’ve been talking for 6 months and made it official around Valentine’s Day.
Here’s the issue, both of us have shared our frustration with previous friends who have gotten into relationships and ignored their friends and I feel like she’s doing the same thing. We used to hang out and talk, not everyday but frequently, now it’s almost never. I’m of course not upset with her or anything because it’s a new relationship and it’s one I support and encourage for her, all I want is for her to be happy, but I feel pushed aside.
I definitely have more time and space since I’m not personally in a relationship. I’m not necessarily picky but I want to make sure who I’m dating is a good fit for me, I used to settle for whoever so I’m slightly picky now lol, so I get it, but all of my other friends that I’m not necessarily besties with are in newer relationships or engaged and still I’m able to communicate with them and spend time with them.
With her, it seems she’s gone ghost on me, always at him house or talking to him. I don’t plan or bringing this up because I hate confrontation and care for her very much. I also don’t wanna give off the idea of me being jealous, because that’s not the case and I feel like that false idea will invalidate what I’m truly feeling and I’m seeing similar stories on here where ppl who feel how I feel are being attacked or called out “jealous” when they just miss their friend.
Like I said, I don’t want to bring it up to her and I won’t but I do want to know how I could go about this or help myself feel better I guess? What’s helped you guys if you’ve ever been in this situation?

A few weeks ago, I received an unexpected text from a classmate. We barely know each other, but he said it's a thing he does where he goes through his phone every so often and tells people why he appreciates them. It was a very long and thought-out message telling me how he's thought a lot about how I show humility through not being afraid to share my struggles and how I refuse to judge myself based on anyone else's metrics but my own.
A few weeks prior to this, I had a significant depressive episode. I was still recovering from it when he sent this message. It touched me deeply and I ended up crying a few times. Someone who barely knows me had noticed something good about me and took the time to reflect about it and then tell me. It struck a chord as I was in a very vulnerable emotional state.
I responded with a medium-length message thanking him and saying it's very thoughtful of him to do this for people, send messages telling why he appreciates them. The conversation ended there. Class hasn't been awkward or anything, it's almost like it never even happened. But his message resonated with me so deeply that I've been thinking about it ever since. When things get hard I remind myself of that message and that people really can be that kind and caring. It truly made a significant impact on me.
I feel things very deeply and like to share my emotions with people. My question is, do I bring it back up and let him know how much it's meant to me that he sent that message? Or, is it enough that I thanked him and I should just leave it as is?

I just want to make an appreciation post para sa BF ko. I learned a lot of things from him and still learning from him everyday, and learning more about him everyday.
Everyday parang birthday ko palagi, parang valentines day araw-araw. Hindi naman super perfect ng relationship namin, there are misunderstandings too! But it is never ME VS YOU, it's always US vs the PROBLEM. We don't fight, walang sigawan o murahan o sakitan o ad hominem bs, we let each other speak about each other's perspective, how we felt, and validate and it goes both ways. Saka kami maghahanap ng solution sa problem, what do we need to change, what is the root cause, why did we feel/acted this way?
He is so strong and so emotionally aware, hindi siya takot magpakita ng emotions and he makes me feel so safe always. Napakasweet niya, sobrang maeffort, sobrang genuine, sobrang maalaga, sobrang CONSISTENT. Since naging mag BF GF kami lagi na niya ako hinahatid pauwi talaga, umabot sa time na, hinatid niya ako sa dorm, bumabagyo noon at inabot na siya ng baha tapos 1 lang yung pair ng sapatos niya pamasok (hes a minimalist, this is also one of the things that i love about him, wala siya FOMO, he doesnt need to hop on the trends, hindi siya materialistic) pero after that day, nabasa sapatos niya and all, unfortunately, late na siya nakauwi just to make sure that i got home safe pero hindi siya nagalit sa akin or nanumbat. NEVER siya nanumbat ng anything. He's just too pure and precious T . T
I can go all my life complimenting and praising him and it still won't be enough. HE'S AN IDEAL MAN. Sobrang patient niya, soft spoken, very calm, he knows how to manage his emotions. He takes accountability, nagsosorry siya kahit hindi niya kasalanan kahit out of his control. He's intelligent, grabe sobrang nakakaturn on talagaa pag nagsosolve siya T . T Partida may exam sila, ang nadala niyang calcu yung boysen yung pang paninda kasi wala yung scical niya, pero omg HE GOT A PERFECT SCORE SA EXAM NILA NA YUUUUUUNN LATE PA SIYA NAKARATING, hes pretty humble about it too pero GRABEE IM SOO PROUD OF HIM AND HIS ACHIEVEMENTS!!
He doesnt give that much credit to himself pero grabe this guy, hindi lang bare minimum yung binibigay niya he really goes out of his way. Kahit na tambak siya sa plates at mga labreports, problem sets, AY GRABEE ARAW-ARAW NASISINGIT PA RIN NAMIN BEBETIME, WALANG ARAW NA DI KAMI NAG-USAP. KAHIT BUSY, NAGAGAWAN NANG PARAAN.
IF "IF HE WANTS TO, HE WOULD." WAS A PERSON, ID SAY SIYA YUNN!!
GRABE AKO RIN ARAW-ARAW SOBRANG NASHOSHOCK NAMIMINDBLOWN, IF TOTOO PA BA SIYA. Tinatanong ko siya, tapos mahihiya lang siya. OMGGGG HE'S SO CUTEEEE T . T
SA KANIYA LANG AKO HINDI NADEDRAIN, AND I REALLY LOVE HOW HE FEELS SO RELAXED AFTER AFTER-SCHOOL CUDDLES AND KISSES. ANG SARAAAAAPP NIYAA MAHALINN IN ALL ASPECTS (PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, ETC) T . T
THEN, one time nagselos ako kasi may mga nababasa ako sa reddit about cheating ganun, lahat naman ng passwords niya and all binigay niya sakin at alam niya rin yung sa akinn. Inopen ko yung messages, att kinakabahan ako, pero grabee :((
Alam niyo kung anong nakita ko? May SAVED MESSAGES SIYA ANG NAKALAGAY DUN: "Si [name ko] lang, at siya lamang." Tapos ayunn T . T sinesave niya pala mga random screenshots sa calls namin, tapos sinesend niya dun yung mga topics na paguusapan namin na baka malimutan niya tinetake note pala niyaa yunn. Tapos nung kinonfront ko siya, sabi niya, "Ang cute mo naman magselos, hehehe sige angkinin mo lang akoo gusto ko yan. Kapag naiisip mo na nagseselos ka or nafefeel mo smth off sa isang tao, just tell me at iboblock ko. Your peace of mind is my priority." Yung FYP ko pa sa tiktok yung may mga sumasayaw na babae ee, yung tiktok niya ang wholesome lang ng mga lumalabas mga memes rs content. Pag nasa labas kami, never siyang tumingin sa ibang mga babae na sexy na dumadaan, ako yung napapatingin sabay tingin sa kaniya pero laging either nakatingin siya sa akin o nakatingin siya sa malayo tapos tatanungin ko siya "Nakita mo yun sexy oh?!" Dasabihin niya "Huh?" "Ikaw langg puuuuu sexy sa akin" Di rin siya interested/nanonood ng bold, kahit mga tropa niya matitino rin naman, nameet ko sila sa cosplay convention at jojo fans din sila.
He's a family oriented man, napakasipag, hatid sundo niya mom niya at sister niya, napakaresponsible niya hindi lang sa akin as a BF pero grabe as a student, as a son, as himself. IM SO PROUD OF HIM and I REALLY APPRECIATE HIM SO MUCHH. We even have a JOWAllet na naglalagay kami dun tapos sa akin na niya pinapagkatiwala yung money para mabudget namin yung dates :(( Sabi niya pag mag-asawa na kamii, kung okay lang daw sa akin, ako na raw magbudgett T . T HINDI SIYA MADAMOTT T . T
Dumadayo pa talaga siya dito sa aminn, minsan magchachat siya na bumaba ako at magbibigay siya ng cake, tatanungin niya ako minsan anong kinecrave ko? Pagkachat niya ulit, nasa baba na siya ng bahay naminn att iaabot na niya CONSIDERING HE LIVES 2-3 HOURS AWAY DEPENDING ON THE TRAFFIC. AKO NA MISMO ANG PUMIPIGIL SA KANIYA AT MAHAL ANG GAS AT YUNG TIME NIYA SASABIHIN NIYA "I dont mind naman yung biyahe, masaya na ako na makita kita kahit sandali lang" 😭😭😭😭
FLOWERS? YEEEEEEES HE GIVES ME FLOWERS!!!! NOT JUST FLOWERS NA NABIBILI (MERON DIN) BUT ALSO HANDMADE ONES!! IMAGINEE BUSY NA SIYAA SA ACADS AND RESPONSIBILITIES, BUTT SINUSURPRISE NIYA AKO NG HANDMADE FLOWERS NA INAARAL PA NIYAA SA YOUTUBE GUMIGISING SIYA MADALING ARAW :(( KAHIT HINDI VALENTINES O KAHIT WALANG EVENT GUSTO NIYA LANG DAW MAGBIGAY T . T AAAAAAA HES TOOOOOOO PUREE I SWEAR!! GREENEST OF THE GREEN FLAGS TALAGAA!!
IM THE LUCKIEST PERSON IN THIS WORLD AND I'D DIE FOR HIM AND I'D DO EVERYTHING TO BE THE BEST PARNER FOR HIM TOO. I'm not perfect and i make mistakes, i hurt him at times, but still, he chooses me :((
For you reading this, thank you so much for your time. You deserve someone na pipiliin ka talaga sa araw-araw. We didn't find love, love found us and I hope that you find the love of your life too!! I believe there is someone out there for you. I never believed in love until I met him. Parang yung sa Valentine lang ni Laufey.
TO G, I LOVEE YOUUUUU, I LOVEEEE YOUUUUUU SOOOOOO MUUUUUUCHHHH, MUCH MORE THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE. MAHAL NA MAHAL KITAAAA SOBRA SOBRA. And I will keep on loving you through ups and downs! I will always be with you and take care of you. Ang sarap mong mahalin! Sobra. You made me realize now, na mas maganda na yung realidad kesa sa panaginip. And worth it, worth it lahatt lovee pagdating sayo, You are worth it. Im so proud of you always.

I feel very conflicted about this so i’ve come to this thread for some advice. For some background, I am a lesbian and i’ve been dating my girlfriend for the past 2 years. I have a best friend, she is very outgoing and can be a bit much sometimes. She often makes very harsh joke and is often very mean to me as a joke, most of the time i can put up with it but sometimes she does bring up personal things that do hurt my feelings. Anyway, to the story, I got concert tickets for my favorite artist, since I am still a minor, my dad requires me to go with someone. I initially chose my best friend because I knew nobody else would probably make the time to go with me. Here comes the problem, i brought up to my girlfriend that i have tickets to go see the artist (which we both really enjoy) i told her i have 2, and joked that she could go with me because money is really tight for her in her family. I thought she would get my joke, because we can never really see enough other because her mom is extremely strict and doesn’t approve of her sexuality. To my surprise she got excited and asked if i was serious, i know it was dumb to actually ask her that but the thought of experiencing the concert with her really made me happy and i said yes. I know it was wrong, but my best friend is not as big of a fan of the artist as me and my girlfriend are. Despite this, my best friend also seemed excited about going to the concert, and i’d feel terrible to tell her that i would like to go with my girlfriend instead. It’s just that this is one of the very few times i’ll be able to be with my girlfriend, and my best friend comes over to my house almost every weekend. So, now i don’t know what to choose. i could either a) tell my best friend that im taking my girlfriend and make her very upset, as she does not like my girlfriend for some ungiven reason. b) i could buy a ticket for my friend, but it would be in a shitty seat, and me and my girlfriend would sit together in the better seats. The only issue with this is that my girlfriend and best friend do not like each other, which is another story in itself that i can explain another time. or i could c) just lie to my best friend and tell her she needs to buy her own tickets because my dad didn’t actually buy 2. I know this is very childish, but i’m afraid if i’m honest my friend will be disappointed and I really don’t want that, i want both sides to be happy. So, would i be TA for backing out of the plans with my best friend? The concert is in September so i would like to know how to proceed!

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The selected bone is the one I want to add this effect
Sooo the image above basically illustrates the skeleton Ive made for this sword. I want the second bone to have a delayed effect when following the rotation of the handle, thus making the sword do a "slashing motion distortion", a very simple one since it's my first try, that'll look like the image below when changing its local Z rotation
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the slash effect I want to create with this idea. I just need to delay the rotation this other bone copies from the handle.
Thanks again if anyone can help me Im pretty sure this is a very easy thing to solve but for the love of me I havent been able to google this one, I think I'm using the wrong keywords for it. Im trying to guess what I need to use. Anyway, thank you guys.

Recently started a new game trying survival difficulty. My previous save was most if not all side quests completed and main story line siding with the brotherhood and doing a little of the railroad. Did the new Enclave quests.
Very happy with all my settlements completed and linked via supply line with fast travel - could practically build anything and had 10000 caps average. I even had an Iron Legion of Power Armor collection. I made a build favoured accuracy and stealth to shoot fusion cores and steal power armour frames (bit of a klepto lol). Had a stupidly OP Gauss Rifle Outputting 400 damage charged and the laser rifle from Danse.
I think i may have forgotten how tedious early game is and with survival on top. My first appeal with survival was the increased XP because how I enjoy open world games, is to get as OP as possible doing side quests and then do the story line. I figured with the higher XP gain Id gain levels quicker and get the Perks quicker.
Am i missing some enjoyment out of it? Any tips? My character seems to be constantly ill despite eating and sleeping 8 hours twice in a day

So, today (4/29/24) marks the 30 day countdown towards my 40th birthday...in the spirit of trying use every birthday to do better in the world, I want to make myself available to anyone who might need someone to talk to... A little about me: I'm 39, from the east coast. I'm a PsyD (Doctor of Psychology), LSCW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker). I love video games, heavy metal, and being outdoors.
If you need someone to talk to, some advice, or you just want to shoot the shit...whatever...I've been in my "Daddy" era since I turned 30 lol. I just believe in trying to be a force of good because the gay community can be full of hatred and toxicity!
Be happy & stay safe!

Earlier today, my ex texted me a long paragraph or two saying he wanted to apologize for his part of our breakup/what he did that lead to our breakup. He took responsibility and genuinely apologized, even for the way we broke up.. He broke up with me over the phone, but wanted to exchange stuff in person.. Which I didn't agree to. In the text, he added that he hopes I'm currently happy in all aspects of my life. We broke up back in December, so it's been a couple months. However, I'm currently in a different relationship so I'm not sure if I should respond or not. We had a really good relationship, wasn't unhealthy or toxic, so I feel like he deserves a response. What should I do in this situation?

So my 5+ relationship ended last year and I haven’t stopped thinking about him ever since. There’s not been one day where I haven’t thought about him. I just got done with a major exam this year and I have some time before I join a college and with all the free time, the thoughts have been getting worse. I’ve been analysing everything that happened and I wonder if it’s my fault.
My ex used to be the most understanding person and someone who I shared everything with. He was the kind of person who mostly kept things to himself but I would say whatever he shared, he did with me. Anyway, he was very very strong academically and when I was preparing for the said competitive exam, he always used to encourage me, guide me, help me. He was the one I shared allllll of my frustrations with and he would always listen. The first attempt went horribly bad and when I told him, he was not judgemental at all. He encouraged me to write it again and so i did. The second time i was doing it with a job and a lot of things were going wrong this time. My manager was the most toxic person to ever exist and I would get yelled at everyday. I would come home crying almost everyday. My dog got sick at the same time and well, within 3 weeks of getting sick, he passed away. Luckily, my ex had come back home from college around this time and he was around me most of the time. My boss still yelled at me everyday though, and my exam prep had taken a backseat, all of this was taking a toll on mental health. And honestly, my ex was there by my side through it all and i felt more loved than ever.
But I’ll admit, that i had started heavily trauma dumping on him by this point. I had even asked him if it was fine by him bc i understood how it could be frustrating but he told me that he was okay with it. After he went back home, he had gotten very busy with his thesis as he was graduating. Our conversations had become shorter and less frequent and I did not have a problem with it. In fact, even with his busy schedule he’d call me everyday at 10pm when he got a little time for himself. At this point, with whatever time he had left at college, he was also trying to make the best use of it and going out with his friends as much as he could. With so much going on, our conversations had really diluted (so much so that I had a severe toothache for which i couldn’t eat followed up by a wisdom tooth extraction that he completely forgot about) but i didn’t have a problem with that. Also, I tried my best to not trauma dump atp because i wanted him to enjoy himself to the fullest. But he’d still keep me posted about important things
But things went south suddenly after he came back. He had one month till he joined a college for masters. He came back a changed person. He was not willing to meet me alone and if it were alone, he wasn’t willing to meet for more than 2 hours. We were arguing over this and he’d just tell me that he didn’t have the energy to argue. At the same time, when i didn’t talk to him for an entire day (he had friends over so i didn’t wanna bother them) he asked me if i was mad at him (???). Literally the next day, after repetitively asking what was wrong, he told me he didn’t have feelings for me. OVER TEXT. I asked him to come over and he didn’t want to and I literally had to beg him. In person, he was very cold. But weirdly enough, when i told him i would block him, he wanted to be in touch and asked me if our relationship meant nothing to me, that i’d block him so easily (???). He told me that he had lost feelings about a year back but he pretended to like me. He wanted to break up with me the last time he was home but couldn’t bc of my dog’s death. It’s been 8 months since and we haven’t talked.
My problem is that he had sufficient time before my dog’s death to break up. Also, when he had come over, i had felt more loved by him than ever. He had even offered to come home and tutor me everyday for my exam. We had met almost everyday. Before this, he had mentioned me (alongside others) in the acknowledgment of his research paper. He would call me whenever he’d get free time. I had told him I was happy that i was getting comfortable with his family, especially with his mom, and he had told me that he liked it. All this time, he had no feelings for me? The only time I felt weird was when he had gotten distant in his last month at college, but even then, he called me everyday at 10pm. And he told me he couldn’t find the right time but he broke up with me 3 months before my exam, over text. Upon asking him what i had done, he said that it was nothing i had done, just that he had lost feelings. But why didn’t it show in his behaviour? Is it that easy to lose feelings? The only reason I can think of is the trauma dumping and the shit I was dealing with got to him. I wasn’t taking care of myself and was depressed af. I have gotten no closure, he didn’t even meet me once before leaving.
I keep telling myself that i must’ve done something wrong for something so drastic to happen. But I cannot think of anything. I’m going crazy.

Unfortunately this relationship has had many troubles ever since we found out I was pregnant. When I was 16 weeks along I discovered on his computer he had been looking up escorts and reached out to a few.. I freaked out and scheduled an abortion and planned to leave him. Then when I went to have the procedure I couldn’t go through with it. All the while he begged for forgiveness and made promises etc.. before my pregnancy we were happily engaged with no major issues. The rest of my pregnancy was miserable but when our son was born two weeks ago it’s like something switched in me and I am so thrilled and happy to have our son. He is an incredible father and is very obsessed and good with him. I have two children from a previous marriage who are 13 and 11 he treats them great as well. We live together and I know it would be hard to leave but I cannot take the way he treats me. He is very aggressive with me always squeezing my cheeks and arms too hard on a daily basis I tell him that’s too hard and to be careful with me and he always says this is his way of showing love. He gets angry easily and is overly critical of almost everything. I had a C-section and he pushes me too much to recover. I also gained a lot of weight due to the stress and he makes comments about it.. when I asked for a glass of orange juice he said it had too much sugar in it - last night when I was drinking a green tea he commented I thought you were on a diet. It has been so crazy to me how much he has changed from who I thought I knew.. He is Latin and I’m also noticing a lot of cultural things that may be at play as well.. I just don’t see how this could end well for me.. I want more than anything for it to work but I not only feel disrespected constantly but also kind of humiliated too.. Where do I begin to leave this situation? I am currently staying home with the baby so I have no income.. I know I’ve put myself in a terrible situation please don’t judge..

Hi there! I would really appreciate some advice on the subject. For more context, we have an 8 month old puppy half Chihuahua (male) and we've just gotten a 2 month old puppy (female) from a shelter. We've been doing great with our 8th month old and saw this other rescued puppy in need of a new home. Since our Chihuahua loves socializing with dogs and gets pretty excited when going on walks, we thought it would be a great idea to find him a little sister and so we did 2 days ago.
Long story short, he didn't like her at all when introducing her. Next day they kind of existed around each other but mainly bc my Chihuahua pretty much ignored her. Later that day, when she tried getting close to him, he growled and tried to bite her and of course, she got really scared and had to comfort her. My 8th month old it's not usually like this but I understand he might feel jealous and threatened by her in some way. I diced to give him some space at night and created a sort of crave for her but not exactly like it, it's more like a couple of boxes surrounding an area where she usually sleeps so at night our dog can sleep in our bed and she can be sleeping, peeing or playing in the middle of the night if that's what she prefers. I added toys, blankets etc. Do you think this might help? I'm honestly worried about both pups safety and health. Do you have any other advice for me? Do you think we made a mistake by adopting another puppy so soon?
Please only honest and helpful comments. I really worried about them and want them to be relaxed and happy.
Thank you!

I have a cute Yorkipoo dog in real life; he's a tiny, affectionate guy. However, this is the third time I've dreamed of him turning evil and trying to kill me somehow. Last night, I had one of those "I want to cry for help, but nothing comes out" dreams where you are in absolute terror. I haven't had one in a while.
I remember various pieces of the dream before the terrifying event:

1. I was in a theme park on a kiddie Dora Explorer fun house type ride.
2. I was with family, talking about stuff I don't remember. Then, I was in bed with my dog (I sleep in bed with my dog in real life). I was petting him, and he was happy to the point where he smiled almost like a human. Then suddenly, his dog face disappeared, and he had a smiling, scary face.

I immediately felt afraid. I could feel the horror coursing through my body. I wanted to get away from him, but then he moved closer to my face, and I could feel him sucking my energy while still wearing that creepy smile. I wanted to scream, but nothing came out. It was terrifying, and I couldn't shake the image of the smiling face looking at me.
Then my boyfriend woke me up, saying I was screaming like "blehhh" and "no." When he woke me up, I told him I was screaming for help, but he said in reality, I was making sounds like "ahh," and that's what woke him up.
I still felt afraid for a while after being woken up. It felt so real. I don't know how I would have come out of it if he hadn't woken me up.

images with the descriptions. Also don't mind the wheel in the front right picture, wide angle on phone made it look wonky.
Anyways, like the title says, I installed new BC racing coilovers on my Z3M roadster, as well as new tie rods. The front right is sitting normally, how it was before changing anything, yet my front left is sitting so far forward in the wheel well. I didn't touch anything else. The only thing I can think of is, is that the orientation of the top hats is wrong? On the front right, the "BC" part on the knob is facing towards the front of the engine, whereas on the left is it facing towards the back. I am not sure if that would make a difference, but wanted to mention it.
Any help would be much appreciated. The refinished OEM wheels will be done soon and I want to take it for an alignment afterwards, so would love to have this figured out asap.

I am 25F still living with my parents. I’m drunk typing this so sorry if it’s all over the place I’ve only lasted working full time for 7 months last year before I ended up in a mental hospital. My mom was a drunk and my dad worked constantly to support us and my brother (who is 14 years older than me and we were never close) my brother hated me because apparently our parents gave me more attention than they gave him. He ended up being a better person but he was physically abusive and put my mom and I through hell for years
I was always a lonely socially awkward kid because my mom was very controlling and didn’t let me socialize with other kids much.
The maladaptive daydreaming started in middle school. I gained a lot of weight in 6th grade because i started getting bullied for not talking much and being ugly. Then being the fat girl made it worse. I started living a pretend life in my head with my celebrity crushes.
After high school it was like I just couldn’t get it together. I had a bunch of cashier and warehouse jobs never lasting more than a few months.
In high school I wasn’t really bullied, just a loner. I never had a first date or first kiss. Never went to prom. I will likely never know what it’s like to hold hands with a man, have a man look in my eyes and tell me they love me, or have a first night alone sleeping together. I started daydreaming constantly when I was around 14/15. I made up my own dream world in my head and sometimes it’s so hard to get out of my head and tell myself I will probably never be happy. My body is ruined. I have loose skin and stretch marks everywhere. I never worse a bathing suit as an adult and felt confident. I am always hiding under baggy clothes
I live my head. I don’t know how to stop it. I just feel worthless and keep getting drunk and daydreaming being a normal woman with a career, friends and a love life. I still get intense celebrity crushes when I know those men would not even give me a passing glance in real life. I am so anxious I haven’t even been honest with my therapist about all of this. I have no motivation. Zero friends. Unemployed. Even my family knows I’m a loser

I recently befriended a guy from my university class and we’ve hung out a few times. We’ve just been going out to eat and doing fun activities like playing board games and going to the movies. My boyfriend is jealous because we’ve been doing all these things together. Mind you, he has plenty of girl friends that he hangs out with one on one and does the exact same stuff with and more, including clubbing and partying with them.
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. He rarely ever wants to go out on dates and usually prefers to stay in to save money (he has a decent paying job, lives at home and doesn’t pay any bills, so technically he could afford to take me out once in a while), but as soon as i made a new guy friend, he suddenly wants to go out on dates and do new activities.
I’m not sure how to feel about this. I don’t know if i should be happy because he’s making more of an effort now, or upset because he shouldn’t want to take me out simply because he’s feeling jealous or because he’s afraid i’m going to have more fun with my guy friend.
What should i do?